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THE DROP TRICK
 Steady
clitoral contact is essential to female orgasm.
But without adequate lubrication, it can become
uncomfortable. "Lubrication increases the
comfort and speed with which you can penetrate
the vagina and grind against the clitoris," says
Friedrichs. "But sometimes, no matter how turned
on a woman might be psychologically, she can
have trouble getting wet." Try a couple of drops
of lube on the end of your tool. Then thrust
with short, rhythmic strokes while pressing your
body against her pubic mound. Don't use too much
lube or it'll feel like throwing a hot dog down
a hallway. Consider a pack of Astroglide
"lubricant pillows" . It's much nicer to pull an
individual foil packet out of your bedside
drawer than to use a sticky, half-empty tube.
THE NECK WARMER
Our necks are highly responsive touch pads
-- the skin is thin, and the blood vessels are
close to the surface. Psychologically, it can
remind some women of "their first sexual
experiences, which could make it even more
exciting,"
Friedrichs says. No hickeys, please: Don't suck.
When you're having sex and she's clearly moving
toward orgasm, brush your lips from her
collarbone to her jaw, then give her neck big,
warm kisses until she comes unhinged.
THE PLAY-BY-PLAY
For a verbal girl -- and there are a lot of
us out here -- a string of four-letter words
whispered in the heat of the moment can work
wonders. "Start by complimenting her or talking
about how good what you're doing feels," advises
Friedrichs. If she doesn't say anything back,
she might not be into it. If she responds with
"Oh, yeah" or a similarly enthusiastic phrase,
she wants more. "Nothing makes me hotter than
when he describes what he's doing to me in
explicit language," says my friend Lana. "But
I'm picky -- there are certain terms that drive
me wild, and others that make me cringe." Build
a glossary: A goofy conversation over drinks
about which anatomical nicknames are the sexiest
isn't a bad idea. And if she ever seems
horrified by what comes out of your mouth, just
say, "Sorry about that, I got carried away."
Final note: Skip cheerleader comments like
"C'mon baby, you can do it!"
THE DREAM MACHINE
"It's a simple fact that some women can
climax only by using a vibrator," says
Friedrichs. If your partner never hits her high
note, no matter what you try, simply ask her if
she's ever had a battery-assisted orgasm. If she
says no, introduce her to a whole new world of
wow by ordering something small but powerful,
such as the Aqua Touch Vibe. If she's over
the age of 30, her answer will probably be yes,
and she'll be more than happy to pull her
Hitachi Magic Wand out of her bedside drawer.
After asking what pressure and speed she prefers
(many vibrators have several settings), all you
have to do is hold it against her clitoris as
you move from one position to another. Enjoy the
magic show.
By:
Nicole Beland
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