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"A woman has a more erotic mind than a man,"
says sexologist Robert Birch, Ph.D. "A man
 is
more likely to say, ‘Yeah, I want to have sex,
let's get into it.' A woman is more likely to
say, ‘Yeah, I want to talk dirty.' Women are
more into the theater, the romance, and the
drama surrounding sex, rather than just the
act."
Of women who've had
kinky sex: Do you believe non-traditional sex
can help your sex life?
Yes: 93%
No: 7%
Just be warned: "This type of stuff
should be recreational. If it starts to get to
the point where you can't have sex unless you
break out the handcuffs, women can start to feel
objectified," says Mark Elliot, Ph.D., director
of the Sexuality and Psychology Institute at the
Institute for Psychological and Sexual Health,
in Columbus, Ohio.
Of women who've had kinky sex: Do you believe
non- traditional sex can help your relationship?
Yes: 85%
No: 15%
"It's fun, it's exciting, it's novel," says
Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist for sex-toy
purveyor Good Vibrations. It also forces you to
talk more about what you like and what you
don't--a skill many couples have yet to master.
Of women who've never had kinky sex: Do you
believe non-traditional sex can help your sex
life?
Yes: 89%
No: 11%
Of women who've never had kinky sex: Do you
believe non- traditional sex can help your
relationship?
Yes: 76%
No: 24%
Are you interested in trying any of these:
Light bondage, exhibitionism, videotaping, sex
toys, or role-playing?
Yes: 89% Keep her on her toes...or in any
position for that matter...
No: 11% Not her bag of tricks.
What would you think if your boyfriend or
husband suggested trying any of these?
70% I'd be game to try it.
22% I'd be excited.
6% I wouldn't mind his asking, but I'd turn him
down.
1% I'd be disgusted.
1% I'd think something was wrong with our sex
life.
What's the best way for him to bring it up?
40% of women who haven't yet tried kinky sex
say you should bring it up in casual
conversation.
30% say you should just go for it during sex, no
words necessary.
17% say after a few drinks.
9% say as a joke.
Go with the plurality on this. "Both you and
your partner need to understand that the fantasy
may be more exciting than the reality," says
Birch. "It's important to discuss it beforehand
so there are no unpleasant surprises."
Edited by:
Jamie Bellavance
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