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THE CLOTHES COME OFF, SPEAK UP
Women who worry about the way they look down
there are less likely to orgasm easily during
oral sex, according to my research. And a recent
study published in the Journal of Sex Research
suggests that women who feel embarrassed or
ashamed about their bodies have less sexual
experience and are less sexually assertive.
Clearly, you have everything to gain with
flattery. If you love the way she looks naked --
and you do, right? -- share the news.
ALWAYS BE TENDER UP TOP
During foreplay, gently brush the tops,
bottoms, and sides of her breasts; these areas
are actually more sensitive than an unaroused
areola and nipple. Gradually move in toward her
nipples, paying attention to how she responds.
As things heat up, the nipples will become
flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors
will become primed for direct stimulation.
You'll kickstart the bloodflow and lubrication
down below, starting her slow buildup.
LEARN HER KEY STROKES
One thing many women love during manual
stimulation: a slow buildup. Here's how to do
it. Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of
one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your
ring and middle fingers along the length of her
outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding
pressure as the tension builds. Cup the area
around her clitoris with your palm to add
indirect stimulation -- most women are too
sensitive to receive direct contact early on. As
she becomes aroused, brace your hand on her mons
-- her pubic mound, the fleshy area that covers
her pubic bone -- and tease the clitoris with
the middles and tips of your fingers as you move
your entire hand.
CHANGE YOUR ANGLE
Play Ponce de León and explore various types
of penetration to figure out what turns her on
most. Your first stop: her G-spot, located about
1 to 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina.
This spongy region swells during arousal. Try
massaging the area slowly with your fingers. A
lot of women find it mind blowing. Not her
thing? Just move on.
USE MOVES THAT MULTITASK
To maximize her pleasure, increase the
amount of contact you'll have with her most
sensitive parts. Here's one move that will drive
her wild. Ask her to lie on her back, with her
legs stretched out. Now climb on top. Curl your
arms around her shoulders, supporting yourself
with your elbows and moving your chest up by her
chin. The goal is to bring the base of your
penis in contact with her clitoris. Thrust
slowly, focusing on up-and-down movement instead
of in-and-out penetration. Another great trick:
Move your pubic mound in a circle or up and down
against her clitoris. You'll get a break from
high-intensity stimulation, and she'll receive
focused attention where it often matters most.
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